A Few Words to Express Grief

Abu Bakr (radi Allahu anhu) entered upon the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) after he had passed away, put his hands on his temples, kissed him between the eyes and said: “O my Prophet, O my dearest friend, O my beloved.” [Ahmed]

When Rasul Allah’s son Ibraheem died, tears rolled down his cheeks and he (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “We are very sad for your death, O Ibraheem.” [Uddat as-Sabirin wa Dhakhirat ash-Shakirin, by Ibn Qayyim al-Jawziyyah]

These ahadith indicate that it is permissible to say a few words when crying over a deceased person, so long as these words are true, and are not accompanied by wailing or expressions of discontent with the decree of Allah. Such brief words do not contradict patience, and are not Haraam (forbidden).